I recently had the opportunity to meet a Cowboy Poet that grew up in New York and was a teenager during the 60’s. We talked about those days as compared today. He was lucky enough to be young and in the right place while many well-known singer song writers were preforming in Greenwich Village. As he shared about his experiences there and some of the performers he was able to watch – he made an interesting statement that has stayed with me. He told me that it was during those days in the 60’s that people would come to these halls, these coffee shops to experience the music and that he feels that that today, we (as a society) find real life to real. That we are not able to experience life as it happens that we are much more accustom to seeing events happen on a screen. A Television screen, a movie screen, an iPad or our phones.
I thought long about his statements and I believe that he is on to something. We ARE an edited society. We get our news from sound bites, and how many times have we walked out of a movie and told our friends that if you saw the previews then you didn’t need to see the movie. We don’t call anymore, we text. We even edit our word and emotions to abbreviations like LOL or TY.
Now, I am not one to shy away from technology and I love my phone, my text messaging and Instagram. I like being able to tell someone that I am busy at the moment, they are important and I will get back to the ASAP But that is just it… they are important.
I know that we all hear this a lot today, that we are all so in touch that we have become out of touch. Hard to wrap our head around; but it is true.
I remember growing in the 70’s, my Mom would go two or three times a week to Mrs. Mayfield’s house for coffee. They would sit for an hour (or maybe 2) and just talk. Face to face; even in the same room – brewed coffee made in a pot, at home. Today, I spend too much time at my desk with fancy coffee, alone texting and emailing, ‘on the line’1 or even Facestalking. And as it’s been said – ‘that’s not how this works.. It’s not how any of this works’2.
The question now becomes – where am I going with all of this. It really came home to me this week while communicating with a client via email, which was okay as she was not able to talk on the phone at time.. But we have been looking at homes for a while via HAR and online photos and she is just not finding THAT home. Later that afternoon I was out taking photos of a wonderful home which I was so excited about seeing - as I just loved what I saw. My daughter was with me and as the aspiring photographer that she – one of her passing comments tied up all of these loose thoughts. She said to me that “(she) wished that there was a camera that could capture what her mind saw – as everyone sees things differently.” On the surface that is a bland and flat statement, but really think about it. Each of our minds colors what we see with our own life’s experiences, needs, and wants. A camera or photo is flat – no matter how beautifully capture it is – it is another’s reflection of their moment in time at that location. It is edited. Their edit which limits our ability to experience it ourselves based on our moment in time, our needs, and our perspective.
Back to my client – we have completed our look on line and it is time to step onto the lawn and feel the space.
Technology is great – it allows us to narrow our search to a type, an area, to a manageable list. But there is nothing like pulling up to the curb and step out on the lawn to really feel the space.
When looking for a home, you can look at the photos just so long, but at some point, you need pull up to the curb. You are not bothering your agent, that’s the part we love. Getting away from the desk, the screen the edits and meeting face to face – showing the property.
If you are really to find your new home – I’ll get you there – I’ll get you home!
Thanks to Postcards Magizine and Ruth Fields for this great feature on
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